Have you finally decided to have a baby? Congratulations! This is an exciting time.
However, conceiving is a lot harder than it appears for many couples. In fact, it can take many months of focused effort and can become a stressful time. Couples who are eager to get pregnant right away that aren’t successful in the first few tries start to feel disappointed, angry and are filled with self-doubt. They may even start to feel shame and pull away from family and friends.
Or worse, they start to look at their partner differently. Here are 5 reasons why it is crucial for couples to share responsibilities once they’ve decided to get pregnant:
1. Reduce Stress
Couples start to feel the pressure as the months pass, and they are still not pregnant. It is stressful enough, and soon you’ve got every family, friend, and neighbor offering unsolicited advice.
However, what you need now more than ever is each other. Stress affects not just on your mood which will affect your sex drive, but it also impacts your hormones, including your fertility. So remember to be there for each other, soon one another when you start to feel disappointed and frazzled. Battle stress together.
2. Enhance Your Relationship
Just as stress can wreak havoc on your fertility, your well-being also affects your hormones and your chances of conceiving. Sharing responsibilities goes beyond splitting up the household chores; it also means keeping track of the schedule and being aware of the optimal times for sex. It also means being present for visits to the doctor or fertility specialists and other check-ups and tests.
All these are not the sole responsibility of the woman simply because she is the one carrying the baby. When the fathers show that they are “all-in,” there is a boost in the relationship. This positive sense of well-being is an incredible environment for baby-making.
3. Spark New Romance
Take turns planning “date night.” Because the sex will start to feel mechanical because it is on a schedule, it’s not uncommon for it to start to get boring. However, if you make an effort to make those nights feel special, you can start to look forward to them rather than see them as a chore. It’s also an excellent way to spice things up in your relationship.
4. Taking Care of Each Other and Your Bodies
Obesity can affect fertility by causing hormonal imbalances and problems with ovulation. According to the Fertility Coalition fact sheet, being overweight can affect your chances of conceiving and having a healthy baby.
You have a better chance of getting pregnant by maintaining a healthy BMI. A healthy BMI is considered to be between 18.5 and 24.9. Having a BMI between 25 and 29.9 is considered ‘overweight,' and a BMI over 30 is considered ‘obese.'
Remember, weight also plays a role in men’s fertility. And as a couple who shares responsibilities in the journey to making a baby, you have the opportunity to exercise together, make better food choices and remind each other to take your supplements.
5. Preparing For Your New Roles as Parents
Who does what?
As you try to conceive, many aspects of your relationship will be put to the test. Sharing responsibilities and making decisions together now will also prepare you for the new roles you will play as parents.
Making a baby is excellent practice for when the baby finally arrives. By sharing responsibilities early on, you’ll be comforted now knowing just how much you can rely on each other during those very demanding first few months of having a newborn in the home.